So I gave notice yesterday and mostly people at work are jealous, which wasn't the reaction I was expecting. I mean, it doesn't take an enviable effort of will to drive your 'career' in mainstream media advertising into a big brick wall at full tilt. It just takes, I don't know, not doing it anymore. I guess I'm luckier than I can really fathom with the F-word. Yesterday really gave me the feeling lots of people are just doing what they're doing, lots of people have slipped into that tender trap, to maintain the nice stable situation their life-partner type expects - or that they think their life partner expects.
Speaking of which, when I was speaking with my lovely manager about my departure, I alluded to the F-word as my 'partner' and when he sent my notice around the office he used the 'partner' word too. Two minutes later, I got a message from a colleague saying I'd always intrigued her. Do you think that means she thinks I'm gay? Or is it just me who assumes gaiety whenever she hears someone describe her lover as her partner? Not really believing in marriage and hoping this relationship lasts, I feel the need to think of a new epithet to replace partner - not that I have a problem with the events manager thinking I'm gay - it's just sort of a cold word. In France, where they don't have common-law marriage, they call people you live with without marrying 'la concubine' or 'le concubin', but English being useless we don't have a word for a boy concubine. So I'm looking for suggestions . . .